From Me to We: The Power of Inclusive Leadership

From Me to We: The Power of Inclusive Leadership

In a world that often celebrates individual success and speed, the age-old African proverb "If you want to go fast, go alone, but if you want to go far, go together" serves as a poignant reminder of the power in unity. Mick Spiers, host of The Leadership Project, delves into this concept of inclusive leadership by unravelling the transformative journey from "me" to "we." His conversation with Kyle McDowell, author of "Begin With We," offers valuable insights into the essence of leadership, language, and culture.

The Transformational Shift: From "Me" to "We"

Mick recounts his conversation with Kyle McDowell, emphasizing that leadership is not solely about authority but also about the language used. Kyle's book illustrates his evolution from a leader focused on "me" to one embracing "we," highlighting the significant impact this transition had on his company's values and culture. By reframing company values starting with "we" statements—like "We do the right thing" or "We lead by example"—McDowell fostered an environment of collective ownership and shared accountability.

The Power of Language in Leadership

Language, as Mick argues, shapes perceptions and behaviours. Attempting to create a culture of trust and collaboration, Mick stresses the importance of being deliberate in word choice. Words that might seem positive, like "actually" or "obviously," can unintentionally convey surprise or condescension. Instead, using inclusive language that signals curiosity and belonging—such as "tell me more"—can foster a nurturing culture. Leaders are encouraged to adopt language that builds trust and invites others to contribute meaningfully.

Building a "We" Culture

Through Kyle's example, Mick highlights that culture is not defined by values on a wall, but by daily interactions. A "we" culture is one where each member holds themselves and others accountable to shared values. Mick suggests that celebrating collaboration and integrity while refusing to tolerate toxic behaviours creates a positive, sustainable culture. A team's genuine culture reflects in their behaviour, especially during stress and uncertainty.

Conclusion: A Call to Action

As Mick wraps up the conversation, he challenges leaders and organisations to reflect on the culture their words and actions create. Are these aligned with building a trusting, inclusive environment, or do they inadvertently promote separation and silos? Leadership involves intentional language and actions that foster shared purpose. Taking inspiration from Teddy Roosevelt’s adage—people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care—Spiers encourages a shift from "me" to "we" in leadership practices, reminding us that our enduring impact relies on collective journeying.